You are enough.

Dearest B,

Your thoughts and feelings are valid. Do not ever for a second question your self worth and emotions. I know you feel like you're drowning with the heavy anchor and I want to be there to free you from it. Emotions will get to the best of us and that's okay. It's okay to fall and have your heart pound and dance around like the amber flames of a fireplace.

I've known you for a fairly long time and this is the first time you told me you feel this way. The feeling of deep connection and slow burning feelings towards someone. You are happy with 'em and I could see that. We (the girls and I) all could. So here I am to tell you- you are enough. You are more than enough for him. And it doesn't matter if he meets anyone else, better or not, that person will never be you. I can't say that he would turn back but I can tell you that even if he doesn't, you will meet someone who's more deserving. And that someone will be the one who fits with you like the last piece of the puzzle. There's someone for everyone and I know you will meet that person and when you do, you're going to thank the stars that things had never worked out with anyone else before.

You do not have to paint a smile across that face. Allow yourself to be upset, angry and disappointed. You have all the rights to not be okay. Give yourself time and space to breathe and find yourself and you will come back better and stronger. No storm will last forever but when it is here, embrace it. Sit inside, drink tea, read a book. And when it's all over, come back out. The flowers will bloom again and we can bask in the sun.

Having to deal with emotions are never easy and no one else can help you to deal with them. You can't help anyone get over anything that they've formed an emotional bridge over. There are no words that could comfort a person at times. It is a solitary process. A personal experience, a learning curve. But through it all, we will be there to support you. Support your emotions and you choices. Just because you're going through it alone it doesn't mean that you'd be lonely.

Lastly, never be afraid to be happy. To be happy on your own. Everyone wants to be happy with someone so badly to a point they forget to learn to be happy with themselves first. Yes, being in a relationship could be magical. You experience love in a special way. You go out and see couples living in their own little bubble stealing kisses whilst going up the escalator and you envy that. We all do. But we don't see their hardships. We don't see any downpours that they go through. And it could be the same for couples. They could be jealous of the single lives a vast of us are living and it's normal. We always want what we can't have. My point is, live life the fullest single. Love yourself. It is okay to not have someone there to enjoy the little things yet. Because the best kinda love happens unexpectedly (much cliche but it's true) and when you're contented with yourself, that's when you can love better. You do not need someone else to feel alive.

Love yourself, because we love you.

Love, J